So obviously I am far from being detached as you can read in my last post. W makes it so hard to detach. She has cried 2 days in a row now while in my arms. She says she is so lonely. Says she needs affection/touch. She says that aside from the emotional stuff going on she needs the physical attachment. I told her I did too. But I wanted it to mean something. I said that I just needed some sort of acknowledgment that I need to keep trying ( to work on us). She said she did not know how to answer that. Said she cannot say yes or no.
Where do i go from here. Try detaching when your W wants to still be affectionate. I told her that I am walking such a fine line. She said I was smothering her so I am backing off but she also wants me to show her affection. I am well aware of the pursuit/distance phenomenon. It is not like that I am totally distancing myself from her. We still talk, eat together and back in the same bed ( at least for now). I told her that I am trying to give her space like she asked but now I am hearing that she wants more affection. Ugh!!!!! I am so lost. So after our conversation now she is more distant ( of course).
What is a man to do???!!
M 37 W 36 T22 M14 D8 D4 8/2012 distanced BD 11/2012 (likely wants D. Feelings have changed.) W move out date: June 8th.
