DB'ing....what are your do's/donts on other relationships?
I will give you my beliefs. First some facts 50% of first marriages end in divorce. 75% of second marriages end in divorce 85% of third marriages end in divorce.
So you are on your second marriage, right? What is your hurry to rush into another relationship when you still are broken from the last one? Do you think that you will beat the odds above by doing the exact same thing over again? Give yourself a chance to heal and to really FIX yourself. Your spouse/ex has given you the GIFT of TIME, use it wisely. Learn, read, educate yourself about, normal, healthy relationships. Take the blame for what is your fault and let go of what isn't. What I am saying is not an easy accomplishement.
See if you are a pursurer or a distancer, what are your expectations, are you dependent or co-dependent, what are your needs and her needs.
Here is a statement I wrote about myself.
Originally Posted By: cadet
I was a conflict avoider, pursuing, codependent, enabling, FIXER.
I can also add in to that a fear of abandonment.
There are lots of things to learn about yourself. If you need to ask me what the above things mean then I can tell you that you are not ready. I think when you are, then you will know.
