CV, you and your H are so mismatched. What drew you to him originally and made you love him? Has he changed that much or just you? Or both?
For him, I had a lot to offer. He was a D'd man with 4 children, struggling financially. I was cute, financially set, and had no kids, whereas most of his other prospects had children. (I've since developed an opinion that D'd people with children should only reM other people that have children.) He was overwhelmed and dazed by D life and joint parenting. I knew him for years before his D, watched him go through it, knew he was devastated by it and just wanted to be M'd again. I was a "rescuer" and he needed rescuing. I found him very outgoing and charming. He seemed funny. He was always doing something for someone (aka. "Mr. Acts of Service") Honestly, I have to admit that *I* changed. The first time I said "I love you" and he responded with "I'm growing very fond of you, too," I thought it was funny. Fifty times later, I found it hurtful and asked him to stop. A hundred times later, I stopped saying "I love you." So the answer is *me*. *I* changed. We *are* very mis-matched, but he wasn't honest with me before we M'd. I don't think he's even honest with himself. So I guess in that sense, *he* changed, too, because he ended up being nothing like the package he sold me.
