Yes, saying nothing is sometimes the best approach but I also have trouble with that.

Do you think you should talk to her about it? If your L knows, I'd be of the mind to let him/her handle it. But I'm not an epxert in these things.

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss