So 2, did she have a great R with them before? I don't talk to anyone in my family much and probably less since the S because I quit being a caretaker.

Your W's reasons may be very different but I wouldn't read a lot into it unless she went from spending lots of time with them to none at all.

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss