Ok, I need a few suggestions on validating H's feelings. I know I need to be better about it. Can you give me some examples?

Please & thank you!

I would seriously consider either letting H take the kids or letting him spend the night & you go elsewhere. But really, I would let him take them. You seem alot like me in the kids department. I look at this as my H getting a chance to really step up as a dad...cause I'm out of the way. I can take over with the kids, so now he has to do it all himself. It's really good for all of us. I'm just being me, he gets to be a dad. Win, win.

M: 9 yrs
T: 13 yrs
H:34 Me:35, S4, D2, S 7 months
Dday 11/12-PA & multiple PAs
Dbing 12/12
S 1/13
7/13 H moved back in basement.
8/13 #3 born
10/13 still cheating
10/13 He moves across country, I file for D