HI, I noticed all of your goals were about what SHE was going to do, not you. Maybe you should rewrite them in terms of what you are going to do to encourage these behaviors from her since you can't control her.
(Interesting that you just said you need to work on control just before you wrote these...just saying.)
M- 18 T-21 S-14,11 & 10 BD 6-18-2012 (OW-EA) H moved out 11-3-2012 10-5-13 Me- I want a divorce. I want to move on w my life. 11-25-13 Jointly filed.