Gabby, Thanks for dropping by. You have no idea how helpful it is to hear how others have coped with similar situations.
I can't imagine how awful it must have been for you to see this on your daughter's birthday. My experience seems so small by comparison - and you handled yourself much better.
My stbx saying I abuse him may be projection, but I'm pretty sure he believes what he tells himself these days, including that our M was 'very very unhappy'.
Just another piece of evidence that lets me know that i can't control him and that I can not do things in the hope of changing him. I can only change myself.
And the best start is to stop showing him that the insanity affects me.
This whole OW parking lot fiasco has taught me the importance of that. Being dragged into their insanity/ Jerry Springer episode only reinforces the madness.
I need to concentrate on getting my self-esteem back (I have been at less-than- zero in this department).
Again, thanks for helping me out by caring and supporting me like this.
