reforce on me

[littleGTO]

Thanks for no 2x4's about the hug. NO hug after visit today!

Tori, stayed cozy & warm & no power loss-yeah! Went out to shovel snow a bit while boys played mostly. They HAD intentions of helping, but, well the 2+ feet of snow was just too tempting to tunnel & play vs. working/shoveling!

Interestingly H called early this morning to make sure we had power and to reinforce his committment to snowblow us out today. He called later at 11:00ish & said he wasn't sure when he would make it. I said, "That's okay, I can tackle the snowblower."

He immediately replied, "No,it's too big of a job. And, I'm bored (at my apartment doing nothing) anyway." I just don't think he really wanted me touching "his" snowblower! He came a couple hours later. It was nice not to do this, but I wonder about his reasons for wanting to do this. Oh, well.

Tomorrow my niece is having a family sweet 16 bday party at my SIL's (H's sister). I've been on the fence about driving out w H as he's been rather cold and non-talkative to me so I'd rather not do an 1 1/2hr drive w him NOT talking to me. BUT, when I asked him & he said he "assumed" we'd drive together.

I said, "That's fine, but I'd rather not if we aren't going to talk as it makes it uncomfortable for me." He said, "It goes both ways." (Clearly meaning that he feels I've not been talking to him either.)

So, we'll give this a go & see what happens. Odd normalcy in an abnormal situation.

My SIL's H'S family will be at the party too. H stated he is not looking forward to being around them (as this will be the first time he's been around them since they've known we are S). They are a strong Irish-Catholic family & will definitely have opinions about my H's actions (but we'll see if they say anything or not or treat him differently).

Tallula, thanks for your thoughts about visitation. I do want to make changes, but I'm not ready to yet. It is impossible to get out and meet new people/GAL when I always have the kids, but then again I still choose this for now.