Does this sound like a MLC or am I just in a SSM?

[mum2three]

i am putting my rules out for you all to add to. Sorry for the duplication

*You are the only person that you can change
*People show their love for each other in very different ways; when people do things for you this may be as much an expression of their love as a hug or a cuddle.
*Eyes can't lie! If someone's eyes light up when they see you this is a very good sign. If they don't then think about why that might be and if it bothers you change something about yourself.
*focusing all your attention on your relationship may be as bad as giving it no attention
*you are the only person responsible for your happiness
*Detach a little but be kind if you find yourself too dependent on another
*Never compromise your own values and needs through fear of being unloved or alone
*you came into this world alone and leave it alone but there are many unlikely people along the way routing for you
*The problem with your relationship may reflect another problem that you are having with work or with your 'first' family.
*Be clear about your boundaries in a marriage, and what you are prepared to accept, talk this over with your partner. Don't tolerate or explain away behaviour that makes you feel uncomfortable or insecure
*Do not mind read or second guess: I was invariable wrong when I did this and thought the worst
*DO not snoop- I never learnt anything helpful from it. I now have a tin of cat food on my desk. If I snoop I have to eat it- ALL
*secrecy is a disaster in a marriage. The fear and worry of what might be happening is worse that any reality