My in-laws live in snow battered NY and I usually check in with them from time to time, but particularly when they have significant weather events. So today I called them up to see how they were doing and I had a nice conversation with my MIL. We talked about the weather and the snow of which they received 2.5 feet. We talked about the boys, what I've been up to, what they've been up to, etc. Then she asked me about how things were between W and I.

I was a bit taken aback since this is the first time she has asked that question since the Thanksgiving following BD. I told her that W and I get along well enough and that we do things together with the boys but beyond that there was really no movement. She went on to tell me that he and FIL rarely have any conversations with W. In fact, she said that they received 2, one sentence text messages from her in the past month. I could tell that she was perplexed and saddened by where we are at the moment.

I told her that I may be taking another assignment up in Maine soon and if possible, I'd try to stop by to see them. She was very happy to hear that and then went on to say that she hoped to see "all of us" soon. I said that I was sure that W and the kids would be out this summer but I wasn't sure if I'd be able to make the trip. She said well, we'll just hope for the best.

W's behavior is so baffling. I can understand to an extent wanting to cut things off with me. That is her choice. But to cut off virtually all communication from her family, is just plain bizarre.

Thoughts anyone?

Me51 W53 S17 S14
M22 T25
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