just read about your H and the FIL funeral. my circumstances are different because i'm me and you're you. my H is not your H. my XH, my son's father, died back in 2008. we had been married for 10 years, together for 13.
he was married to someone when i invited him to my town to start a business together with me and my current H (now X). he had been having problems at his job and was being treated disrespectfully and it broke my heart. i wanted to help him. he was always a kind man but we grew apart. we got married when i was 21, way too young i now know.
anyway, he and his wife ended up coming to my town, living with me and my H for six months, and starting a business together, as partners.
the business failed (of course), mostly because my H, at the time, was a lazy, no-good bum! LOL!
but, anyway, when he died, i drove to where he lived (800 miles) with my current H and spoke at the funeral about what a good man he was. i comforted his widow and saw a lot of my former in-laws and friends that i used to know.
if my current H wanted to do that for his kids' mother, if she died, i would not have a problem with it. i did it for my XH and for my son. he can do it for his.
i always believe that once you love someone, there's a part of your heart that they have. i can always think good thoughts about them, even my bum 2nd H!
but, as i said, that's me. everyone's different and entitled to how they feel about things. and your H should respect your feelings because he's married to you now.
M:63 H:53 S:41, SS:28, SS:25, SD:23 M:15 T:16
Bomb:12/17/11, "I think we should go our separate ways." H moves to his mother's house, 4/1/12 12/21/12: H moves back home, piecing
