It looks like you are experiencing some developments with the XSO. Probably too soon to tell if they are positive or negative - just things to "make you go Hmmmm".
My H has mentioned before about being "friends" and I snapped back that "friends don't treat each other the way you treat me". (Not DB worthy at all, I am well aware. Actually, I think that may have been before I found this site.)
But there may be a kernel of truth? It may be that you are a friend to him, but is he a friend to you? Not to say that you shouldn't continue down this road, because it may eventually lead to a better place. Just consider whether he is ready yet to even be "just a friend".
Take care of yourself. Sorry to hear of your losses. An awful lot on your plate, but you are strong and will come through everything ok.
~ J
Me 46 H 56 M 22 yrs S22, D20, Twin Ss18
You teach people how to treat you by what you allow. What you stop. And what you reinforce. ~~~~~~~ A lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect.
