NLW, here's a secret, you don't have to be perfect at anything to be loved.

It took me a long time to believe that but I'm getting there. And it's so freeing.

I had lots of defense mechanisms to protect the imperfect me that I was so afraid people would find out about. The one whose house wasn't always clean, who made mistakes, who judged other people, whose speiing wasn't always perfect, who on and on and on... I thought that my husband leaving screamed out to the world that I wasn't perfect, I was unlovable.

That's all BS, created in our fear-filled minds.

My H left because of his stuff, not mine. I took what he said his complaints were, compared that against what I knew to be true and went to work. I would bet it's the same in your life.

Leaving your money issue and you childre to the side, what is your biggest fear?

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss