How to make it work again?

[scaredsilly]

I love that song, Bug. That's how I was feeling the last months of our S.

Now, I feel tethered; not all the time but more than before the R. I can't suggest more separation time from H. I don't think that would be fair or kind. I'm just wondering how much of these feelings are just part of being married?

You'd think I would know, having spent almost 40 years being married to someone...
However, I've never reconciled before. What I want to do is maintain some of the independence I got back during the S without my H feeling rejection about it.

One good thing that he told me is that he learned to do things by himself and enjoy them during our time apart. Prior to that, anytime I declined, he felt rejection.

I don't know. Maybe if I invited him to go to lots of things I know he'd rather not and he declines, he will be able to accept mine easier?

Thanks for dropping in, Bug. I'm so glad you're feeling good about your life!