The stunt with your armpit and grabbing her is just weird in the situation you're in. Never touch someone, even your W, unless you know you have permission. You escalated the conflict by touching he, plain and simple.
Your W acted in her best interests by calling the police. I have never called the police on anyone in my life but I would have in that situation.
"I know Im not perfect, but when i listen to my W, I feel like she's trying to destroy what little is left of my self esteem. I feel shame."
Self-esteem comes from inside of you, other people can't give it to you and they can't take it away. Your wife may be blaming and shaming but how you react to that is up to you.
Why do you think you feel shame? Answering that will give you answers to where your work is.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
