I went to an open air art show with with friend yesterday and we had a great time. Driving home we were talking about marriage, divorce, separation and people we know who have gotten into R so quickly after getting D.

My conclusion, based on only my experience, is that fear drives people into quick second R. I know that I've only started feeling OK with this in the last 6 months so I was S 18 months before the fear eased.

I'm actually quite happy with my life right now and the amazing thing is all the fears I had initially have evaporated.

And life keeps opening up new things for me.

There's a Joni Mitchell song (I know you and I will know Joni wink ) Free Man in Paris, a couple of lines stick in my head...I was a free man in Paris, I felt unfettered and alive.

I feel unfettered and alive for the first time in my life.

(these are the posts I hated reading when I first came to Newcomers)

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss