This talk actually brought us closer. He continued to talk about R. He said that he finally feels as if he's ready to commit but wants to do it slowly and not rush into it. (I'm the one rushing cuz I'm so darn impatient!)
I wanted to circle back to this part right here. ^^^
In nearly every successful reconciliation where infidelity was involved, I have seen the above dynamic FLIPPED ON ITS HEAD. When they are sincere and ready, it is the formerly CHEATING spouse that is willing to move Heaven and Earth to be let back into the marriage, and it is the BETRAYED spouse who says (and does) "Not so fast, mister. I'm not sure how I feel about this anymore -- I'm going to need to think about this."
That's been my observation, and it's also firmly rooted in basic human push-pull dynamics.
