Can I LIKE kat & Gineen's posts - they are right on. If you believe it - you become it - I believe in self fulfilling prophecies. If you truly believed he was going to leave you again - I doubt you would stick around or keep him there.
Live on day at a time. Do what makes you feel good and what you feel is an investment in your relationship. Valentines Day is a good time to do something intimate in whatever way works for the 2 of you. A special dinner, a special card - anything.
Mish - you're a lovely person. Please don't sell yourself short. If there are things you do not like about yourself - make an effort to change them in order to feel better about yourself. Learn to love YOU!
And if a therapist can help - use one or whatever resources you can.
I don't post as much anymore. I found it was bringing me down. I used to think that all the things I wrote helped me process what I was feeling and I'm sure it helped back in the crisis. But now I find that when I write things about my ex or my negative feelings - it just makes them bigger in my mind than perhaps they really are. Like reinforcing the bad stuff. Don't need that!
