What I'm learning from H stages, myself!

[albamarie]

Should I give my h some real reasons why his presence is important here? If so I think I wouldn't know what to say. Right now I just look at him like...you know your wanted home...or kinda like well what do you think. There have been times I said we'll then go and he quickly says no.

So he needs me to tell him his value, he wants me to give him some validation. Sh!t, when did I become his cheerleader?

Or, do I say that's something only he can answer as a member of this family? As a person who needs to find his own purpose in and out of our home. He's going to say then he serves no purpose like he has before....and then change nothing to better himself. So then he can complain again...devalue himself and again ask me what purpose does he serve here. It's been a cycle of the same question for over a yr now.

What would you say...this is your journey? Or, of course there is value in your being home with your family.

is he really saying do we need/want him as a person. Hum! If he died tomorrow would it matter, "tell me it would matter wife"! Even though he would shoot that down as well!