Hi Grace_O, since I am a new comer all my posts have to approved so my reply may take a few days to reach you. since my last reply, My husband and I had a big talk last night which didnt go to well but it only re affirms my belief that he is totally crazy.
He has now changed his story for wanting the divorce, he still wants one but instead of it being "its because your unhappy all the time" (because in the past 4 months I for surely GAL'd it and have been doing many things on my own, got my hair done, a make over, hanging out with friends, going around tokyo, ect. He admits I have been acting better these days but that now we are just "imcompatible."
thats not what he said before his depression set in, before it was "i cant live with out you, i love you, your the only one for me...yadda yadda"
The meds he is on has helped him alittle but he is still not on full dosage yet and absolutely does not want therapy or to talk to anyone about his issues. In fact he gets verbally abusive with me if I even suggest it.
So last night I simply ended the converstion because it went no where other than with him one again re affirming his warped beliefs about me being the sole cause of his depression and if I leave it will "magically" go away.
I did ask him some important questions in a non emotional way like, :If i leave you then what, what will you do?
What if your depression gets worse when I leave?
what if life is harder for you after I leave?
What if you regret the divorce once your depression lifts?
Of course had no answer for it other than, "i cant get better until you go away."
Well...I DONT BUY IT. I simply dont believe him. Something is wrong in his head and its messing with his ability to think straight. I dont believe a word that comes out of his mouth. SO going back to what Cadet first replied "believe none of what he says and half of what he does." holds very true here.
