I'm crying now b/c the 2 x 4 hurt AND more b/c you guys care enough to give it to me! Thank you!!!
I GET IT. No hug initiation. No VDay card. No more pursuit behaviors.
So, I'm scared to tell you all that he asked me for a hug before he left today....I gave him one. I didn't read all my posts before, so I'll try to do better starting tomorrow!
Spartan, thanks for the post about letting go (of control). I think I really have done a 180 on this a lot, but still have improvement to make. I will refer back to this list often.
Regarding the kids visiting H....it is more a fear for me than a control thing, I think. I fear being without them. Now that I'm not a wife (well, only on paper, really) I feel like w/o my kids I lose part of me being a mom too. I know this is not true, but it is how I feel. Stripped away...it makes me sick to think about not having my kids.
VDay--boys found out "accidentally--via a phone message from a local cat adoption" this morning that I had been making phone calls about kittens...so I told them I was planning to get a kitten for our family. They were out of this world EXCITED! They will help me pick one out in the next week or two. It will be a nice diversion from things for us.
When H came to visit today the boys told him & he in turn questioned my decision but didn't say anything about not telling him or consulting him (as I purposely did not say a word to him in advance).
GALs this weekend on hold as we are in the middle of a blizzard!
M- 18 T-21 S-14,11 & 10 BD 6-18-2012 (OW-EA) H moved out 11-3-2012 10-5-13 Me- I want a divorce. I want to move on w my life. 11-25-13 Jointly filed.
