What do you guys think about the Retrouvaille program? http://www.retrouvaille.org/ (Retrouvaille: a French word meaning rediscovery)
**** They note the "4 stages of marriage": (1) Romance, (2) Disillusionment, (3) Misery, and (4) Awakening. Due to the high divorce rate many couples never make it to the 4th Stage of Awakening
Romance
Most are familiar with the 1st Stage of Romance. Life was so wonderful we couldn't stand to live without the other. Our thoughts often turned to the other when we were not with them. We had fallen in love and knew that this was the person we wanted to spend the rest of our life with. Little differences between us were cute and endearing.
Disillusionment
At some point those little differences started to annoy us. We felt bothered by some of those same things that may have been cute a short time earlier. The self-talk in the back of our mind started wondering why our spouse couldn't be more like us. We had entered into the 2nd Stage of Marriage, the Disillusionment Stage. During the Disillusionment Stage we start to realize that our spouse is not the perfect person that we had envisioned him or her to be. Sometimes, especially if our Romance Stage had been particularly intense, we are hurt deeply by this Disillusionment. We realize that the expectations we had of the perfect marriage were not going to happen. For some this realization is too heart wrenching and they give up on the marriage and divorce during this 2nd Stage of Disillusionment. ***
They expand on the 3rd and 4th stages as well (Misery and Awakening) but I found the first two stages interesting as I really felt a connection to it.
We all know about the program. Works only if your spouse has an even slight chance of R.
Ya, I'm actually not too worried about if it "works" for R. I was more referring to those 4 stages made a lot of sense. Reviewing the program on my own gave me a lot.
Nope, just a regular one. Due to my old meds not working well enough I didn't drive for fear of a seizure. Since I got my as* in gear, no pun intended, and started taking new meds I haven't had a seizure in over 9 months.
