I think that my biggest fear right now is that a divorce will happen. Most days I am ok with it. My w actually told me that she thinks a divorce will bring some closure for her. Maybe it will. I know for myself that my feelings will not change because we are divorced.
My w says she wasn't happy in our marriage. I accept my part in that. So we seperate, and she still is not happy. I don't believe I am responsible for her continued unhappiness. And, like I said above I don't believe the next step will change anything either.
We continue to get along very well, and she told me that she really likes telling me about the funny and silly things that happen with the kids. I have been working on listening and asking questions that keep her talking. She also shares about how her day went, mostly work related things. I use those oppurtunities to work on validating. As far as her personal life, she is a tough nut to crack. I will continue to ask about her friends, as that was one of her complaints. She says that I didn't care about them, or want to listen to her when she spoke of them. I won't lie, I was to caught up in my own life to want to hear about theirs. And now that I don't hear about them, I miss them. So asking about them is out of sincere interest.
I have also always feared being in charge of a large job at work. Well no choice but to face that fear, as I am in charge of a year long project, that is the biggest of my career. Time to shine.
Me 37/W 32 S 5 D 4 ILYBNILWY 5/12 Sep 8/12 Starting to find myself 11/12 on
