Wow, there are some fires burning on this thread. I agree with Cadet and MrBond that you haven’t given it enough time. I think that your wife feels lots of pressure from you when you say that you not interested in M without love and passion. She might be going through a phase when she doesn’t feel anything for you. But, it doesn’t mean it cannot change. From what I’ve read over the last 6 months of my sitch, falling out of love is quite normal in a long term marriage. Just read it in DR book that at this specific moment your wife might feel that her feeling will never return. But, when she married you she probably didn’t think that her love for you would ever disappear.
Even thought it was her idea to go to Retrouvaille, she probably went there with a specific agenda – to find her feelings. And when this didn’t happened she went back to a confused mode. I think it will take some time for her to revamp the benefits of Retrouvaille. She needs to do more thinking on her own. Maybe you need to stop any kind of relationship conversations for now and just enjoy your time together.
I just want to repeat myself, I feel that you wife still feels much pressure from you. She is not ready to have romantic, passionate and sexy relationship with you. But, it seems to me that she is not ready to give you up either. Maybe you need to back off for now and give it some more time.
M:50 H:52 S28 (my S from previous marriage) M:17 + 3 BD: 06/12 S: 06/12 - H works in another state
