It sounds to me like your W has spent an awful lot of time thinking thru things and she seems to know what she wants and needs. She is giving you some pretty direct input and much of it would be the same as folks here would tell you. Give her time...work on you...only your consistent actions will convince her of your changes. Listen to what she's telling you.
Originally Posted By: Mach1
How do you feel when you read that email ???
I'm curious about this too. An awful lot of the things she said really sting me, because I am guilty of much of the same. I let my insecurities overwhelm my sensibilities and pretty much destroy my M. The one person in the world I love most, I have done some of these things to. Reading thru your W's list almost made me cry. I'm not a big crier, but these are deep deep wounds you have caused (and me too).
I found it odd that you took all that in and you say you want her to take some responsibility for her part in it. Seriously!? That's how you feel after all that?
You mentioned you are going to IC, but what are YOU working on? What 180s are you doing? Based on your actions, and your W's comments, you have a lot of work to do. Time to dig in and get started.
