I wasn't saying to kick her out. But, youth the exception of sex, you are treating her like your wife. Why would she stop?! She is totally cake eating!!
When my H said he ended his A, he came back to our bed, I was acting like a wife. Compliments, ML, etc. when he refused to defriend OW on Facebook, I said that I would have to stop certain things (the above) as my boundaries. Emotionally I couldn't put myself out there when it didn't feel truly like we were really at the starting line. I respect myself mOre than that. He totally understood, while I was scared it would drive him back to her. But I have to be true to me. Later he said that he found it attractive & awesome when I stood up for myself.
THIS is what we are talking about. You won't GET her to see you are the better choice. If my H had openly told me when he was going to see OW, much less spend the night...I wouldn't be going out on a date? when he got home.
M: 9 yrs T: 13 yrs H:34 Me:35, S4, D2, S 7 months Dday 11/12-PA & multiple PAs Dbing 12/12 S 1/13 7/13 H moved back in basement. 8/13 #3 born 10/13 still cheating 10/13 He moves across country, I file for D
