Mach1, I feel like I really messed up in the past and in the last 6 months. I do take responsibility for the ways I've failed in our M. I will take from it what i need to work on and do the work. I'am in therapy.
I feel I just wish she would acknowledge her part in it. She's not perfect. I'am tired of hearing the story now for the past year. I want to take the story, learn from my/our mistakes, learn how to communicate better,learn how to love better, rebuild our friendship and trust, and create a much stronger friendship and M. Unfortunately, she wants out. That makes me feel sad amongst other things.
I've got my good days and my bad days like everyone. I will from now on try to listen to her better and do my best to give her space & time. And I will do my best to keep a Positive attitude and detach and GAL.(that is the hardest thing to do for me because I have to talk/text w everyday about kids.
If it were me...
I would remove EVERY THING from the above, that had to do with your Spouse, and focus on changing those things for yourself, because you didn't handle them well...
Don't worry about her owning her parts...
You have enough to work on, even if only half of that is true...
As far as what is true, and what isn't true...???
IT DOESN'T MATTER....
What matters, is that what she wrote, is her perception of what happened, and it is VERY true to her....
The more you argue with her about what SHE fees is real, the more you prove her point....
To argue with her, is to prove to her, over and over, that you don't and didn't listen to her....
Stop, take a look at what she says, and pay attention to the parts that YOU don't like about yourself...
