Tori, thanks for your insights. I think I would be prepared to handle M talk, but only about the issues. I don’t think I‘m ready to handle any kind of potential R talk. I’m not hurting any more, just feel sad sometimes. I can see more clearly now that our marriage issues were not only my fault. H has his 50% in it, and I don’t think he fully realizes that. He admitted that he contributed to our issues, but he doesn’t think that by fixing the issues on both sides can actually bring the M on the right truck. He is convinced that he needs to start fresh and find himself a different partner, who will be different from me. Unfortunately, he will have to go though the discovery before he can decide whether this path is going to work for him or not.
mum2three, thanks for checking on me. Actually, it is not hard to detach and GAL when H is not here. I think I’ve kind of used to it now. Even his stiff (clothes, etc.) is not bothering me anymore. I have my moments when I want to know what he is doing and I try to prop my friends for some information. But, it is getting better every day. I’ve just sent my girlfriend over there an e-mail, and I didn’t even mention my H or anything related to him.
You are right, focusing on other relationship in my life is the best thing now. It is amazing that you wrote this, because I was actually thinking about it recently. Thanks for your advice. I will check out your post too.
M:50 H:52 S28 (my S from previous marriage) M:17 + 3 BD: 06/12 S: 06/12 - H works in another state
