I don't feel like you are putting me on the spot at all. It truly helps me to talk through these things. Here's what I asked for:
1) Stop drinking - When I agreed to reconcile it was following him coming home with the name and number of an outpatient program. He never did call. His drinking increased.
2) Stop talking to OW - Since asking this, he has a) taken trips with her b) had her at the house c) hung out with her and her friends d) friended 8 of her friends on Facebook e) kept contact through text messaging, e-mailing and facebook.
3) Stop spending every weekend away - Since asking this, he has not spent one weekend at the house. Not a single one.
4) Stop spending so much time at work - When I asked this, he was probably doing about 60 hours a week. He's now at 80 hours a week
Those were the top things I requested and the results I got.
As far as contact? He knows I've been in contact with my family at home including my uncle. That has tipped him off that I'm getting ready to do something, I think. I don't know for sure, but that is what I think. I don't have the patience to count the amount of text messages today but I'm up to my 9th call. I'm stressed out beyond human comprehension.
