Went out with a buddy of mine from high school last night and had a blast catching up. I haven't seen him in years.
I didn't tell W where I was going or with who, only that I needed her to do dinner because I had plans. Before I left, I saw she was texting OM and I called her out on it. I wasn't mean or anything, but the fact that I said anything pissed her off pretty good. She said "I think texting during business hours about business is ok" and I responded, "with anyone else, I would agree....but not with this guy." She immediately became offensive and started bringing up crap that wasn't even related so I said, "This is unproductive so I won't continue this line of discussion."
At that point I left, had a beer with my brother and then headed to dinner. I got back at 1030 or so and W was asleep. This morning we were cordial, but when I asked her if she wanted to talk, she said no, she needed to focus on work this morning.
When I sat down at my desk, I noticed that she used my computer to send her attorney an email last night saying "let's move forward...change this and this and serve him. Make sure he can't make me leave the house until it sells." Seems a bit stupid since I was the one who requested most of the changes and we have another court date in a few weeks, but maybe she figured I'd see it and wanted to poke me....who knows.
At this point, I am faced with something I've been rolling around in my head for a while now. Do I simply sign the papers and try to live with W as a roommate until house sells, or do I delay this til spring. I had been thinking delay, but the longer this goes on, the more I think W may need this piece of paper to feel "free." To me, neither of us can really move on very well until the house is gone, which could take 6-12 months.
I am hoping W will be willing to talk tonight, because at a minimum, I would like to understand what she thinks things will look like in the coming months....finances, living situation, etc. We don't really have anything to argue about, but timing of splitting finances is important.
