OK. Question. Do I give the wife a Valentine's Day card, or not? I have one just in case.
Our anniversary comes up in March. I asked if she would like to go out to dinner then. She asked me, "what are we celebrating?" A little sarcasm was added. All I said was, "we have been married for 12 years."
This is tough. Since our sitch began in Aug/Sep I have been thru our anniversary, W's birthday, and xmas. I am leaning towards getting my W a couple of gifts for Valentines but haven't decided yet. I don't think I'll get a card or do anything romantic. I will probably get her a book that she has interest in and a box of these cookies she likes. Kind of torn, on the one hand not to pressure and on the other to show I'm her husband and want to do caring acts for her.
I don't think these two gifts would put pressure on my W though so I'll probably give the gifts.
Of course, I'll coordinate cards/gifts from the kids.
