Thanks for your post Snodderly. Hope your knee isn't giving you too much trouble today.
Caught myself a doozy of a cold, so I slept like the dead. I feel better after that.
Talked to xSO last night. He has really upped the frequency of contact. I guess now the GF is gone, he has some more time. We talked liked two old friends. Like the past six months never happened. Like I didn't get a nuclear bomb dropped on my head.
Is this normal? I know that it will not do any good, but sometimes I feel like asking: what the heck is going on? I know that unless he says so and actions follow that we are not entering back into a relationship. Some things have changed, although I do not know if he has noticed. For example, I never talk of the future anymore, I never ask his plans for the future and I do not tell him mine. Nor are there any plans mentioned that would involve us both. Prior to BD I was full of plans - enthusiastically full of plans. Now, none.
I do not mind the friendship phase but it is such a strange place to be especially when he shares things with me that you would not normally share with a person who is just a friend which then reminds me how well we know each other.
Is there ever a time when there should be some sort of relationship talk? Like, I know in my heart that if another GF comes on the scene, pitch black is what I will be. I would prefer him not to lie about it or hide another relationship, is there ever a time to say that (even if I suspect that he may not honour it?)
I am guessing the answer is to stick to the Rules and no R talk at all but I thought I would ask.
