EXPERIMENTING with physical touch with W

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Thank you for your responses. Yes I think I am a little confused as to what I am doing.

I know what my ultimate goal is, and that is to save my family and go on to a much better M than the one I had.

My problem is that I do yearly believe my W loves me, and is making a mistake. Still, you are right. She is grown and can make her own mistakes and then she can try to fix them when she realizes.

I have ben told several times by different people that what I am doing by keeping her home is the right approach, at least for now. And I think my coach has the same attitude that it is toll early to set the kind if rules and boundaries that are a sure way to push her to OM.

It has only been 2.5 months and my coach asked me how I felt and whether I could hold on for a little longer and I said yes.

I believe my wife is constantly making a comparison with what we have together, to what she has with OM. Plus she is slowly realizing that he lives so far that it doesn't even make sense. Also realizing that our D3 will begin to forget her mommy the more she is away (wife hinted at this when D3 doesn't look for her in the morning anymore).

So I guess what I am hoping is that enough time will pass to where she behind to see that this situation is unrealistic. By then I will have gotten to a place where hopefully I don't care either way, and so when I start to open up the subject of what her next move is, she will need to make a decision.

To break it down, I want her to make a decision but only when I have laid out my case and reiterated all that I bring to hr life through my actions during thus limbo time.

I wanted to kick her out that night of BD. My family doesn't know what is going on because this is not acceptable behavior for a wife in our culture and there can never be a R in their eyes if they found out. They live in another state so I just told them she is not happy and mohr be leaving me, and left out the OM part.

I thought long and hard those first few days on what I wanted to do. I decided I owed it to all of us, especially to my D3 to see if I can hold this together and give her the stable life that I had growing up.

Need to set up a coaching session and get some insight to what I am doing.