It is not the money so much as raising my kids as I have been doing all along.
Then try to lose those thoughts...
People tend to act in the way that they think....
Originally Posted By: Floyd
She is more painting me to be a bad husband than father.
So prove that she is painting with water color paint....
How do you mean?
M17 yrs. me49 xW47 d15 d11
BD1-Jul/11(Affair found out) Therapy 9 months (tried 2) BD2- May/12(sep) Court Jul/13 - I got 50/50 Sold home - Aug/13 Court #2 - Dec/13 Court#3 - Apr/14 ... She lost again We settled.
So prove that she is painting with water color paint....
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How do you mean?
M17 yrs. me49 xW47 d15 d11
BD1-Jul/11(Affair found out) Therapy 9 months (tried 2) BD2- May/12(sep) Court Jul/13 - I got 50/50 Sold home - Aug/13 Court #2 - Dec/13 Court#3 - Apr/14 ... She lost again We settled.
BD1-Jul/11(Affair found out) Therapy 9 months (tried 2) BD2- May/12(sep) Court Jul/13 - I got 50/50 Sold home - Aug/13 Court #2 - Dec/13 Court#3 - Apr/14 ... She lost again We settled.
Boy is she bitter and angry and makes me to be the culprit to family and friends. This is to be expected I understand. Can't control that. Some don't buy it, some do. I took the kids to mass and the sermon was about marriage and the family. Forgiveness, kindness and sacrifice were main themes along with communication....listening more than talking. Also parts about not giving up. 2 people will never agree on everything. I make it sound bland but it was very well delivered and hit a lot of points. The kids were struck by this very good sermon. Too bad W did not go....she has not gone to mass with us since April. The sermon was delivered by a good friend of her sister's husband who are both Deacons. The BIL would have delivered the same sermon at his church this weekend as the theme was prompted by the Archdiocese. None of her family know the truth. I have been nice as pie around the house. Is this over the top? I just want to be nice....from the heart. Weird as I have to litigate at the same time and protect myself.
M17 yrs. me49 xW47 d15 d11
BD1-Jul/11(Affair found out) Therapy 9 months (tried 2) BD2- May/12(sep) Court Jul/13 - I got 50/50 Sold home - Aug/13 Court #2 - Dec/13 Court#3 - Apr/14 ... She lost again We settled.
I have been nice as pie around the house. Is this over the top? I just want to be nice....from the heart. Weird as I have to litigate at the same time and protect myself.
FM, I'm doing the same, and it's really HARD. But keep at it. You are being nice because it's in your nature. You're connected to God, and I'm happy for that.
You have to keep at it and not change, although she is probably just waiting for the shoe to drop. If she brings anything up, such as custody, say simply it is how I feel etc...and don't drop out of calm Floyd...
You really have to maintain equilibrium because if you lose it it will be "Aha!! I knew he was pretending!!!"
Okay. Sounds good. She definitely is looking for the "aha!" . I will not give it to her, no matter what buttons she pushes. I don't think she will bring anything up though...she is doing everything through L now. Other than that it is passive-aggressive behaviour and coldness.
M17 yrs. me49 xW47 d15 d11
BD1-Jul/11(Affair found out) Therapy 9 months (tried 2) BD2- May/12(sep) Court Jul/13 - I got 50/50 Sold home - Aug/13 Court #2 - Dec/13 Court#3 - Apr/14 ... She lost again We settled.
Don't get sucked in to the passive aggressive either...H used to do that and it drove me crazy!!
But as I posted elsewhere, the changes in my behaviour, being straightforward and asking for clarification, has now led to changes in his...so alt least innuendoes and games and misunderstandings are minimal now.
