They have to get to the very bottom layer in order to face their demons, accept that they were not a fault for what transpired as children and grow up.
OH my gosh. This statement hit quite a cord with me. My W is still fighting all of those demons from childhood. She has time and time again said that a lot of time she felt things were her fault. But how can it be their fault with they are five and six years old. How very sad it is to have this on your conscience or sub conscience and never really come to terms. I think my W has been in therapy for years and years and she’s never really resolved those issues. After we got together she stopped going and working on those childhood issues. I could speculate on why, but does it really matter now?
A few months ago we were talking and something came up about the issues and she got all upset with me and said that, “She was NOT ashamed of what happened to her as a child”. I said I did not think she should be as she was only a child and she did nothing wrong. The only person who should be ashamed and would have to answer to God was the person that caused her harm. She then went onto say as she had before that she truly resents her parents for not “protecting” her, her sister and others when they were kids. I could not agree or disagree since I have never had things like that happen to me.
