Last summer she had agreed to 50/50. October she gets a litigator instead of Collaborative Family Law like I suggested we do.
You are never gonna have a rational decision with an irrational person...
Why are you entrusting HER litigator instead of protecting yourself with your own counsel ???
Originally Posted By: FloydMan
The litigator changed it to 75/25. It is a money grab. When I asked her why she changed and why she felt she should have custody like that her answer was "Because I'm the mother!"
What are you planning on doing, to change this decision ?
Originally Posted By: FloydMan
Let me tell you straight up and honest....she has been an absentee mother and I literally everything. I have countered with primary residence and access for me at 75/25.
You have to find a way to let go of this anger, or at least not using that anger as a sword.
Harness it and use it as your energy to find a way to change this...
Originally Posted By: FloydMan
There are also financial assets to be argued for and net family property...all my hard earned savings. The litigators are salivating and going to drain it and court is inevitable. I have no choice though as she is taking it there. She is a lost soul. She was not like this for years. She changed dramatically in last 3 years and even worse in last 2.
Is it the money that is bothering you ?
Money is replaceable...that time with the kids.....isn't
Originally Posted By: FloydMan
I pray every night she snaps out of it. I just don't get the hate. Just don't.
This kind of thinking is exactly what you do not need right now...
You are REACTING emotionally instead of responding, because you think that she is doing this TO you....
She isn't doing anything to you, she is doing it for herself, and you are just something, that is keeping her from getting her way...
Stop looking for "what is wrong with her" , and start acting for yourself, and protecting yourself..
Don't worry about all of the other crap, just do what is right....
Floyd, you sound defeated already, and you haven't even gotten a start...
Never has a battle been won, when the Victor goes in with the mindset of losing it...
Plan well, act well, and know that you gave it every ounce of energy you had . When the day is done, you will have zero regrets over your actions.
