Wow. That really really [censored]. Ugh. So, Floydman.
Is she trying to show you as a bad father in order to get her 75% and you only 25%? That's kind of stupid. If you're a bad father, you're a bad father; if you're not you're not.
How much money are you talking about if she wins 75% versus 50%? How much time exactly are you losing with the kids in 75% versus 50%? You love your kids and want what is best for them, and that may just be giving in on this. Make sure you know what you're willing to fight for and how much it's going to cost you to make that fight.
Is it possible to give her the time, can you afford to give her the money differential? ...and...write in there some language that gives a lot of flexibility for you to get time with your kids when it comes to real life. Such as right of first refusal when she can't be there on her time. Such as meaningful hours in your allotment, not disney funtime but actual living in your house time where you're there for some homework and some friends sleeping over and some sickdays and real life? Can your time be set as a "minimum of" and then in actual practice you negotiate more as you go?
Your kids aren't going to doubt your commitment. Your goals are not going to be met by proving she's an absentee mother. Document it in case you should need it. But if you're haggling over two additional days a week and all the money goes to the lawyers and you end up with one additional day a week and a combative relationship with your ex, have you won?
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
