Thanks kml Gotta stay here. 3 kids still at home 2 going to college the other one is looking for a job. Thank you for the other suggestions. Never been a waitress but I've done that kind of work at church. I will look further into the school thing.
Just a quick idea ... my D25 did a 6 month course in medical filing clerk, which gave her a very needed position. She now works for the provincial government earning a good starting salary. She says you can work for hospitals, clinics, doctors, government offices (medical, of course). I don't know if there's such a diploma in MI, but if you like working in the medical field, why not check it out? She got hers at the local community college.
Take care.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
Thanks for the info. The atty is filing tomorrow. A paper was delayed on the mail. I'm nervous about his reaction. But my sister said remember what he's doin right now behind your back. I hope to be able to tell him on Friday.
Rachael, I'm keeping you and your family in my thoughts and prayers. Pray for the strength and the proper way to advise him of the filing.
Good luck!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Thanks snoddery I do need prayers! I know people have advised me not to tell mom in law. But if ow goes with h I think he's planning on bringing her into the family circle. If my mom in law wants to know why I filed it seems that I should tell her. Otherwise what do I say? That we just can't get along? He told his mom it wasn't me but him. She'll wonder why I filed cuz she thinks I didn't want this.
Rachael, I still think he should be the one to tell her because he is her son and she won't necessarily believe you. She has to see why w/her own eyes. However, the decision is yours as to whether you tell her or not, but I wouldn't say anything until after the papers have been filed/served. You don't want to tip your hand.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
I wouldn't have a problem with telling his mom, once the papers have been filed and he has been served. Why should YOU have to suffer any ill thoughts from your MIL, when the truth is he cheated?
I would keep any discussion simple, private, and to the point - something like "MIL, you know I value our relationship and I have tried to make my marriage to your son work. But he is having an affair and shows no signs of stopping, so I have had to file for divorce".
Any questions she has, just tell her "I think you need to speak to your son about that"
Thanks all I plan asking him when he's going to tell his mom. Like I expect it. Then tell him that if she wants to know I will have to say somthing but I prefer he do it. And I think it's a good idea to keep it short and tell her to talk to her son.