EXPERIMENTING with physical touch with W

[MrBond]

"Mr Bond, what are your thoughts on this tactic? I know it is not really DBing necessarily, but DB says to do what works. And advice from a WAW suggests that this actually works to create friction. Your thoughts..."

My thoughts are you haven't learned a single thing from anyone. You still are looking for magic bullets to manipulate your W and control the situation. Everything to you is a "tactic". You haven't even started your grand scheme of GALing.

"I think it is smart to force them to confront the fact that I am in her life and she enjoys my company."

Still controlling. First of all your W doesn't enjoy your company. If she did you wouldn't be here.

"I am having to face the fact that she enjoys OM's company, so why should he not have to do the same?"

Controlling/Manipulative

"The thing is my W believes our M to have been sex starved.'

It was.

"So, not touching her or showing some kind of affection is probably "more of the same" which I think is why Laurie wants to establish how much touch my W is willing to allow."

Mindreading.

"When I ordered the tickets, and scheduled MIL to keep D3 for the night, I also showed her I am capable of planning a night and executing, something she said I was not capable of during our M."

Manipulative.

"AND, I forced her to tell OM she is going out to spend the evening with her H on a saturday night, and D3 will not be there to cramp our style."

You "forced" her? Controlling.

"So MIL is sure that will play on OM's insecurities and create the conflict that we need to create within the A. "

You still don't get it. The issue isn't with the OM. Since you haven't changed for the long term, she'll move on to another guy. All of your "tricks" are short term.

"Other sites like MB and MA advocate exposure tactics to bust of the A so it ends quickly."

This isn't a football game and don't preach other site's "tactics". I've seen those and more. The thing that works is changing yourself and growing first.

"Since we are following the DB way, and the methods of MWD, we like to pave the path home etc.. "

WTF? You're preaching to us again?

"but I think at the same time it would be wise to employ some tactics to make the A as uncomfortable as possible, but using indirect tactics."

So say your W comes back. So think you're a great catch now? YOu haven't grown up at all.