Dear Bright Future, I wish I coud offer some helpful advice. It must be hard to GAL and detach when your husband is no longer around but I think you have wide open channels of communication through your mutual friends. I suppose this could be dangerous as it is not only second guessing but also involves 'chinese whispers' (do you play this game in the US?). The advantages are that if you do GAL and appear happy and sorted then this will find its way back to him..Not that that is why we are doing this of course! Stay strong. I found one really essential piece of advice in The Dance of Anger! When you are focused on one relationship and feeling negative take some time to confront another relationship or with some other part of your life that might be the real problem. Focus on something else for some time and find your neediness and dependency on your DH lessen. This really really works for me. I woke up early feeling negative but just writing to you and focusing on you has helped me feel better and less abandoned in my marriage.
Me 49y H 52y T23 y M17 y ??EA June 2012 with younger co-worker children 8-12
