Ok, if I told you, as a WAS, that this is COMPLETELY NORMAL, would that calm you a bit? Because it IS completely normal. She is fearful and ALL YOU CAN DO is continue being the new Crimson. That fear is hers to work out from there. And you will see her cycling for quite awhile.
I understand your fear, Crimson, but there is no way that anyone here is going to be able to tell you that you won't end up where you get hurt again. Prepare yourself for that. But honestly, what do you have to lose? You can risk getting hurt with her or move on and risk getting hurt with someone else. Personally? I'd roll the dice with someone you are already love and who has loved you. But the risk is real. I tried reconciliation and failed. There are others who have done the same. BUT, go on over to piecing... there are plenty there that have tried reconciliation and are doing well! And truthfully, I'm not sure anyone can ever say that they are done and everything is fixed. As soon as they get to that point? They are ready for another marital breakdown because they are taking it for granted. But I digress...
What you want to know? Is this normal? YES. VERY VERY VERY NORMAL.
As far as Saturday? What do you say? Nothing. At least in regards to this. NOT A SINGLE THING. Have a nice day with her. That will go a long way. You have plenty of time to talk about reconciliation. Right now? It sounds like she needs a mental break because her mind is working way too hard. So give that to her. Give that to yourself.
