Is this cake eating? 10

[bustingout]

NLW how are you? You must be feeling a lot of emotion after what happened.

I think getting back into the routine is a big help for us to work though our emotions .

Just don't beat yourself up. Get THROUGH it and continue moving forward.

I understand the want to give it to the OW. We perceive them as feeling so self-righteous and smug and want to take them down a notch or twenty.

I think in the end we need to live with ourselves and be content with the decisions WE make for OURSELVEs (depending on what we value, etc). I have recently come to realize that H does not value what I value. So it has made it easier for me to realize that OW does not matter to me. I know what i value. And I will not compromise on that anymore.

H is no longer an obstacle to my happiness. And I have to give myself a chance to find what makes me happy. These men. They all think they are the exception. That their relationships with OP are different...that their relationships are real and meaningful and BETTER than what they had before. And that keeps us in frozen mode because we think 'what if thats true, that h is done wjth me?'

We know its not the truth. I use that to keep me focused above the pain I feel for that has happened.