Needgrace,

Thanks for this! You are right.
It's a hard way to learn, but some of us seem to have a knack for doing things this way!

I was harbouring a huge worry that if i didn't let OW know what i thought of her, I would spend the rest of my life regretting what a pathetic walk-over I'd become.

Now i know that letting rip doesn't serve my purposes as well as I thought it would.

But I had to learn the hard way....

So glad to know that you understand.

Hugs back at you!