Hi rh, thanks for the encouragement. One thing I realized is that I've kept my mouth shut to them for 5 months now, and doing for that long just helps me keep going with it.
Snodderly, thank you so much for your advice. It helped me so much yesterday. I don't think FIL meant it to hurt me, just to let me know subtly that I am a member of the family.
What is ironic is that he will say "I love you", in a fatherly way of course, but has never asked WTH is wrong with H and me. Granted, he and MIL have never interfered in our relationship at all.
OTOH, my mom immediately questioned me when she perceived something was up, and she could tell just from talking to me on the phone.
Still haven't heard anything about dinner with old girlfriend. What I don't understand is why he didn't tell her straight up he would be busy. He really will be super busy with work for the next month or so.
It would have been easy to tell her when he talked to her last week. At least I don't have to come up with an excuse about not being able to go. I wouldn't want to go on Valentine's Day either.
On the GAL front, last night I played X-box with the boys. I had great fun, and H watched and laughed at my bad playing.
Unfortunately, the game made me kind of queasy. S16 said that I was having my first video game hangover.
