Yes, we must be true to ourselves... something I definitely need to work on more. LOL. You kind of did pull the rug out from under me! But this is not always the best forum to get to know people I guess.
I'm not sure that my mom was making any commentary on my changes other than she said that I seem far less willing to mold myself to my H than I used to. She just said that the things I wanted were different now. What was important to me was different now. I'm not sure she really called it good or bad... just different. For instance, my career used to be a lot more important than it is now. I suppose that's how I defined success. I define it quite a bit different right now. I regret not having children. She said there's still time but I just don't think so. Things like that...
I so know what you mean by the Charlie Brown thing. I really do. I just think it goes beyond that. I think somewhere that we know that these men love us and I believe they do. Listen, CV, when I thought my marriage was over, I dated. Lots and lots of fish in the sea. And they like you for awhile... mostly as a ploy to get into your pants... but love you? No. That's much harder to find. And there is some cold comfort in at least having people that love us even though we don't feel our needs being met. Does it make it right? I'm not sure I'm trying to defend that. I'm just really trying to get down to the reasons we stay stuck for so long.
