OK so I probably just did one of my biggest 180s that I will ever have to do....I'm not proud, gloating or remorseful. It just felt like the right thing to do...
My W texted me this morning after receiving a call from the vet about an appointment I had setup for our dogs. I had made wellness appointments for three of the four dogs. During the texting my W mentions that the OW (the one she has been in an EA with for two years) had to put one of her dogs to sleep yesterday. I’ve met the dog and she was very sweet and gentle giant.
My W text was something like, “Not sure if you would want to know but I found out that OW had to put dog down last night”. She then provided some details of what had happened. I responded, “That’s very sad. Please tell her I’m sorry for her loss. It’s like losing a child”. She said, “I know”. That was the end.
Since the OW was a pretty close friend before all of the stuff hit the fan, I decided to text her myself. I said, “W just told me you had to put your dog to sleep. I’m very sorry for your loss of a sweet friend and companion. She was a good friend and will live in your heart forever.”
I know if/when I have to put one of my animals down it will probably be very painful. Right now I feel that when W and I divorce, it’s going to probably tear me up inside since I will lose two of our four dogs. I’m currently watching the one dog while the W is traveling. He cuddles with me when I get home, at night in bed and is so excited to see me. It truly breaks my heart knowing I won’t have him around for much longer. So I’m giving him as much love and attention as I can while I have him with me. I love them like they are my kids.
M-49 W-47 M - 09/2008 T- 09/1994 No Children 4 dogs/2 cats EA 11/2010 Sep 09/2012 (tried in 05/2012 and W came back to work on us) As of now does not want to work on anything but herself...
