Now, are you really not sure of what you want? I sense you do want to save your M but acknowledge the old dynamics won't work
Once again, you are spot on. I'm stuck in the sense of fear. Afraid of having to go through a 3rd BD so to speak if things don't work out. Simply afraid to address that with which does have to be addressed if we are to R. If it weren't for the A, I'd say definitely. There's a lot of ugliness of course (both sides) that will have to be looked at.
Side note, last night, W made a joke about how she was lucky to have a pimple on her nose vs one I have near my mouth, it looks like "herpes". My response was joking and a bit underhanded (I admit that). It was "well for those who think we are still married, they'll think I got it from you." Her response though, was we are still married.
Also, she made a few comments about how she is unsure of when / if she can touch me. I shared the same feeling. She added that she "always" has that want.
Really not sure who is temperature checking more, her or me.
