You can read thru my recent posts about how things have kind of been backtracking since I went much less contact. But I don't think it is doing good. To me, the spewing this week is a result of me pulling away, and now this morning....
H has been gone 3 months. In that time, besides coming 3-4 mornings a week to get D to daycare, hehas asked once to take her to a family party (I was invited too but we already had plans) and once he offered to stay with her if I wanted to go out. ALL of the other times I have asked him to keep her because I had plans. Since my pulling back, when he gets going on these arguments, he always mentions setting a schedule for time with D. This morning he says 'he can and would love to have her tonight' The timing of this is not lost here, right? I did not give a reaction just said it was ok, and even gave him a time next week when I have something going.
So what I need opinions on - I think I should go back to more contact. But again, I don't want to give the message that I am ok with this living arrangement (not that I won't be ok, but that it's ok to pretend family when you want). Guess I just take the chance of getting my heart broke more. Or I could continue this less contact and let him get some of this stuff out of his system maybe.
