Kimmerz, AJ's posting is very much spot on for your situation. Your xh can't hurt you any more. You've been hurt very badly and it will take some time to heal.
As for your xh, I do have another thought on some of his behavior, but I don't want you to focus constantly on what I'm about to share. Your xh is most likely coming to terms w/the divorce and sits in the driveway and looks at the home he no longer lives in. He's thinking about what he's done and he sees his home, his wife and his children are still living there, but he's not.
As for the texting, it is his way of keeping a single string attached to his past, nothing more. It's not being done to aggravate you at all.
As your new life unfolds, these little things will eventually go away and you will no longer feel aggravated by them. It takes a lot of time to get there, so fill up on positive energy and put the car in drive and let's go!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
